The Languages of Love
Our deepest desire is To Love and Be loved
(not sure who wrote that if you know let me know)
Over 25 years ago, Gary Chapman wrote a book that has now been read by millions of people. The idea is that the way you show love is the way you like to receive love?
When you wish to show someone that you care what do you do?
A hug (Physical touch) Being super tactile, not just sexual, so if you are with someone you ut your hand on them you feel connected by touching. And often people want this touchback. Some people just don’t like to be touched and this may just annoy them
2. A Present (Gift Giving) showing love through things, flowers, dinner etc. If you are given a lovely bracelet and this is not your love language, the bracelet may be very appreciated by really does not hit the mark.
3. A coffee date (quality time) - you show that you care by sending time with them, just showing up and walking alongside someone.
4. A help with the daily grind of chores, do the dishes or perhaps you mend something for people (Acts of Service) It doesn’t mean you are submissive. In some families service is part of everyday life. but for many men, in particular, they are not just doing the to-do list of maintenance but are actually showing their love,
5. or perhaps tell them straight out that you Love them? (Words of Affirmation) Not in an arrogant or needy way, you are just are a words person, I love you in a note, a text r an email And conversely someone says hurtful things it cuts very deeply indeed, just as an absence of words can also hurt
How does your partner show their love? How do you feel most loved?
Just because you have different love languages, this is not the end of the line, just learn what you love languages are and perhaps show your love in the way your significant others show their love. Children need all of these “Buckets” filled, if you wish to learn more please have a look at the links below.
If you would like to know more please check out this article https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/the-5-love-languages-explained
A beautiful gift may be heart chosen but not well received